If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything. -Malcolm X
Ladies and gents, I thought about you all on this dreary but beautiful day in Southern New England. May 19 marks the 86th birthday of Dear Brother Malcolm X. I am not writing an article about Malcolm X’s life but I wanted to give my thoughts on the above quote: If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything. Don’t take this quote lightly because we all can fall victim to falling for anything especially in this era.
I am a firm believer of being a product of our environment and learning certain behaviors from our environment. Our first two years of life is very important because we developed attachment to our caregivers whether it is our biological or adoptive parents/families. When you see a healthy development and attachment being developed it is a beautiful thing because you want that child to thrive and succeed in life and in future relationships. When a child doesn’t developed that healthy attachment, they tend to go out and fall for anything due to not having a firm foundation.
Being naive and having blurred vision can make you lose yourself and fall for anything. When you meet someone they are going to put their best foot forward to gain your interest and approval. At this point in time, you should listen to your intuition and decided are you meeting the representative or the actual lovey, dovey genuine person. Listening to your intuition and being attentive can save you from being manipulated and on a journey of heartache and pain.
I can admit to falling for lies and deception in previous relationships. The red flags were blazing, hot fire but I was too caught up in the lust and lost myself. I remember my mother telling me if everything is too good to be true, find the nearest exit and run. Nothing in this world is picture perfect because we are imperfectly flawed human beings.
Those who are charming, self-centered, inflated egos, selfish, and disconnected from reality can manipulate you into falling for anything. Some of these traits could be signs of a narcissist/manipulative person. Stay far away from these types because they are going to lure you in especially if you suffer from low-self esteem, poor self-imagine or even if you are temporary down and out. They are going to promise you the Earth, moon, stars and Heaven but will have you suffering as if you are living in Hell. Stand your ground and stand for yourself and your self-worth.
Signs that you fell for anything:
- You find yourself in an one sided relationship
- You put in more effort to make your relationship work than your significant other
- No compromises and broken promises
- You are constantly blamed and accept your significant other blame for the errors in the relationship
- Your significant other has either left or threatened to leave after every argument
- Your significant other constantly criticizes you and try to make you seem psychotic
- You found yourself in an abusive and unhappy relationship and is willing to stay to work things out. *Google Cycle of Abuse*